Forgiveness is one of the hardest, most powerful gifts we can give. It asks us to soften where we’ve been hurt. It also calls the other person to face the impact of their actions.
Sometimes we think forgiveness means “forgetting” or pretending it didn’t matter. But true forgiveness isn’t about excusing. It’s about naming the hurt honestly and then making space for healing on both sides.
In relationships, forgiveness often works best when it’s paired with accountability. An apology can open the door, but reflection and change are what keep that door open. Growth happens when we pause long enough to ask: How did my words or actions affect someone else? What can I do to repair the harm and live differently going forward?
Forgiveness doesn’t erase the past. It creates the possibility of a different future.
Think about a time you’ve been hurt. Did the other person’s willingness to change impact your ability to forgive? How might accountability and compassion walk hand in hand in your own relationships?
God, help me to be honest about what hurts, and courageous enough to forgive. Teach me how to hold others accountable with love. Help me keep my heart open to the possibility of growth for myself and for those around me. Amen.
Where in your life right now could forgiveness open the door to growth?
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